Reader – If you are correct then a child that wears diapers for bedwetting but is not forced to do so, and is not shamed, humiliated, or punished would be unlikely to develop an attachment to them. I have seen this in my own family as well as numerous others who have posted here, such as Carina above. Diapers are one of several tools available to manage a condition and should not be treated any differently than any other method. The problem is that most people associate diapers with babies and the use of diapers is therefore considered infantile. This message is conveyed to the child either by teasing or shaming, or through behavior such as a parent insisting on diapering a child long after the child is capable of doing it himself. Parents may not realize they are sending these messages but the child senses it and reacts accordingly. Parents of children that use diapers for necessity need to be careful to avoid any references to infantile behavior and to encourage the child to take as much responsibility as he can in managing his condition. As far as medications are concerned, they do help some people but I agree that if there are unpleasant side effects they should be discontinued. My doctor told me that DDAVP slows urine production for about 6 hours, which works for me most nights. I have not experienced any side effects so far and I will continue using it as long as it works and there are no other problems.