Reply from layla, Child's Age 11&7 - 11/15/02 - IP#: 62.252.0.5Thank you all for all your replies,,so much advise,thankyou This has been an interesting week,the older girl stayed off school on monday,having as i said in my last post not performed and wore a nappy to bed,it wasnt even wet in the morning,she watched as i changed her younger sister,who was as she is every morning wet.After the younger had gone to school i thought that if as suggested in some replies was jealous of the time i spend on changing nappys,toilet training the young one i would do the same for her.So i got her to lay down ,removed the nappy and then put her on the toilet,at her request she kept the plastic pants on but pulled down round her knees and stayed with herwhilst she tryed,zs i do with the younger one. She did manage to do some poo then asked for the nappy.I went through the routien of creme etc and nappied her,and said if you want to be treated like your sister she only wears them in bed,so you must go to bed.she did and a while later i went to check on her,she was actually asleep.The room smelt of poo,i lifted the covers to see and her nappy was full,i felt the lump through the nappy,yes it was hard,but nothing that she hasnt previously done on the toilet.I woke her up and thought this would be a good time to touch on the subject of why in a nappy,reply it didnt hurt as much,i asked her to show me how she did it,she kneels on the bed,holds the headboard and strains.I asked how long did it take her to do it 40 mins she said.I said,well youve sat on the toilet for longer than that straining,she said that hurts more and i can do it harder this way.I said did she want to wear anappy all the time,no she replies,do you want to be treated in the same way as your sister,yes,if i can do it in a nappy. So where do i go from here,her problem is not dietry and up till the time i stopped the strict regieme she would have gone on the toilet without any problem. For the remainder of the week she has had a nightime nappy which on 2 occasions has been wet and soiled in the morning. The younges one is asking why her sis needs a nappy and why cant she use the toilet like she does.I am hoping this is not going to have a detrimental effect on the young one who still has the strict regieme.Basically each evening she has to sit on the toilet and try,i go in after 15 mins[if she hasnt already finished and called me to see what she has done]i take with me her nightie,nappy and plastic pants.Whilst sitting she undresses and puts her nightie on and the pants up to her knees,then i encourage her to try real hard for a while.If she hasnt pooed the day befor she has to stay for quite a while. If she is constipated or it hurts she sits till it comes out,or at least till she gets some of it out.When this happens and she is in bed she will get up and come to me and ask to go on the toilet again,rarther than soil herself,so i remove the nappy and she tries again.Her occasional soilings are accidents,usually if her poos are soft/runny. I dont get angry with them during toiletting or when nappies are dirty i remember the fear i had as a young child from that.I was a wetter myself till i was 15,and i had to poo each evening. if i didnt i got into trouble and got spanked and got spanked for wetting.yes i am strict but not to the point of shouting or spanking lay;a |