Reply from Mr John, Child's Age xx - 11/10/02 - IP#: 65.56.169.169Layla: I had a great post all written out and I had to do something and when I got back, I had lost it on the screen. Meantime all these folks after Marie had posted a reply. I haven' digested the messages, but I am so disappointed that my message was lost. I liked it so much. I am going to try to reconstruct but I know that I will have to abort it somewhat since I think the guys captured much of what I was saying. First, I had just finished sending a reply to Marie because I took exception to some things she was saying within earlier posts, and especially to an item she used on her first post to you. You can read what I said to Marie if you back up to about 11/5. Now, I remember saying first that I do not think that your strict toilet training has anything to do with your current situation. However, I then expressed my thoughts that her pooping her diaper shortly afterhaving it on, was a little complex perhaps because your 11 year old might either enjoy the feeling or that she may have felt she needed the diaper to perform in other than a sitting position. She would of course do something to avoid discomfort, which I speculated might be a recurrence of her constipation. You had not mentioned anything along that line. Finally I wanted to say that you having found her putting on her sister's plastic pants and then you were using the diaper and plastic pants was OK. If both the diaper and pants are what she wants, let her have them unconditionally, day,night, anytime. That will take the pressure off her and let her be your little girl as with her younger sister. One more thing. I think I saw something in the converstion going on between the others and you where you might have asked if you should go back to toilet training with your 11 year old. My opinion is that she does not need that regimen right now. Let her be just herself and you may never have to pick up on that once again. It is important that your 11 year old be emotionaly happy and at ease. Wish you had told us your girls' names, by the way. I know I have left some things out that I wished to say. However, I had said at the beginning that I am the person at the top of the reply and that I have posted some replies to the teens and older kids, to parents, and even the adults where I might help. Regards Mr John |