Reply from Mr John, Child's Age Adult - 11/6/02 - IP#: 63.208.62.243Jo: Alas, I also sympathize with you given the conditions you describe. Tom's reply below Is insightful and right-on as to teaching your 10-year old boy. However, I have the opinion that there must be alot of trial and error to get both the boys in line, as they say. I would expect that you will either get many, many replies or that many others will tend to avoid commenting on the circumstances you are setting out. So that I not ramble on, you may get some from youngsters who will tell you to get diapers for them. I must agree if you do get such replies and to quote several similar replies from young moms and dads,"you'll be glad you did." It is a tough call in your particular case, and it can be said that you and the boys' father should get tough too. You, in particular, must stop knocking yourself out to get some resemblance of decorum with the boys" toilet habits. My gosh, what you descibe is just terrible and embarrassing and needs to be taken care of right away. There is not much resemblance to toilet training and the spanking you mentioned was probably not convincing enough ever. It is now late in the evening, but I would waste no time getting in some supplies and getting the boys shaped up. I needn't get into smells and other things like that that occurs, but the bedwetter(s) should have a diaper and, if necessary, plastic pants so that you can save laundering and odorous whatever. These items can be used for daytime too and should be to protect against any lack of discretion,whether at home, out playing or at school.All this is of course your judgement call and if you might so choose to do that, you will need to be hard on the boys and make them do as you have instructed. Set up a routine and discipline and build on your program to help the boys overcome these problems. It will begin with you, however, and you will have to be dogged and patient to carry it through. |