Reply from Tom , Child's Age 10/15/19 - 11/6/02 - IP#: 62.252.32.6This is a difficult oneMarie a 14 yr old Yong lady needs her dignity and yes its important to support her and explain to her that buying pullups are expensive and cloth nappies are cheaper to use and although she wets the bed it is far better than sleeping in wet beds obviously she does not take responsibility for her putting on the nappies and plastic pants as you say it is a fight saying that wearing them they are hot well so you put them on her wellfirstly I would sit her down beside you when it is all quiet and you are on your own and say to her come her my love come and sit down by mum I want to have a chat with you!explain that the reason for protection is because she wets the bed (as there is no physical reason for wetting the bed ! then it can be nervousness, anxiety, etc,) tell her in a calm kind voice smileing that it is only up to her when she stops wetting the bed then there would not be any need for protection at night and only she can be the instigator of this! tell her she is a growing young ladyand the sooner she stops it would be better for her! give her responsibilities to take her own hygiene at hand tell her there are people like herself who have problems wetting and that they do stop but the ball is in her court are you in britain or usa?as i am in britain hence british tertms to what americans call diapers! I hope this is of help best wishes Tom |