Reply from Bill, Child's Age N/a - 6/21/02 - IP#: 64.12.101.157Hi Jen , I have read your note a few times and mostly what I read is that you are very opinionated . I also add that in the area of diapering 13 yo's for car trips and other daily activities I am in agreement with you that it is disgusting . I would like to get to my point for responding to you , and that is I'm certain that you have expressed your opinions to your son , such as " when is this going to stop " ," how long do you intend to wear these diapers " ,.... I'm also certain these come out of you as mentions not scoldings.And how many times do you tut or wrinkle your face in front of him . I was a teen bedwetter and I still remember those subtle little things that made me feel baddly about my self . I never had a problem with the word diaper but I did have a problem with the 'karma' by which it was presented to me . I think you have more of a problem with his diapers than he ever would have had you just been more considerate for him .His only problem with diapers is you . He is a special person sent to you and you have been given a special bonding concept which requires your love , not condensation . The time you spend getting him ready for bed should be cherrished , moments carried happily into adult life . Talk with him about the days events, joke with him , play with him , make him feel special . Make these moments count for positive memories because they are almost over .Love this child in the deepest way , he is very special , as are all your children . I may be wrong but , I think that it is you that needs to get over the diapering thing .Use the diapers at night for as long as it is necessary .Try letting your son put his own diapers on and you only check them for proper fit .Diapers do not need to be a negative , you have the choice to turn them into a positive for the both of you . Good Luck |