Reply from Sandra, Child's Age 12 & 16 - 5/12/02 - IP#: 128.183.234.194Hi Samantha, I had posted this to the partentsoup board in response to another mom who has two teens still in diapers, but I think it might help you to read this also and to know you are not alone. I know exactly what you are going through and maybe more!!! I not only have two teens still in diapers but my husband also is a bedwetter and more... Our boys no doubt inherited their poor potty habits from their father. My husband has been a bedwetter all his life and because of a combination of his problem with urgency and his phobia of public bathrooms he now wears diapers most of the time, except for occasionally around the house. Our youngest is 12, he is by far the most work because he seems unconcerned about wetting and soiling to the point of not making any attempt on his own to change himself when he needs to. And when I insist, he typically does a very poor job of cleaning himself up and taping on his diaper. Consequently I do nearly all of his diapering still. He is in diapers nearly 24/7 still and showing no signs of ever out growing them. Our other boy is 16 and has realized the social implications of still wearing diapers. Although night diapers are a must for him because of bedwetting, he has for the most part out grown the need for daytime diapers. He too wore diaper 24/7 untill he was 11, but didn't want to start jr. high in them and has managed to do very good since then. He still is willing to wear them if we go on long trips and will sometimes wear his night diaper into the day on weekends around the house under his PJ's. But very rarley other than that. I sometimes find wet pants and undies of his in the hamper and once in a great while poopy undies, but I try not to make an issue of it, becasue, for the most part he deos a good job and is much less work than my youngest. My husband's condition doesn't help the boy's attiitude. They are fully aware that he wears diapers and have essentially been raised as if it's not unusual for older kids and even adults to have to wear them. When i first met my husband he was very shy and embarrassed about his wetting and having to wear night diapers... I told him I understood and he really is a loving man and a great provider. I love my husband and boys and as wife and mother, I accept who and what they are.... But I have had my share of frustrations! Anyway, I just wanted you to know that you are not alone.... and you can e-mail anytime! hugs, Sandra smorison57@hotmail.com |