Reply from Joan, Child's Age 14 - 4/13/02 - IP#: 80.225.24.53Jayne, I agree with Raylene and Maggie. There seems to be a number of different types here. There are those like us three who feel that our kids benefit from being nappied/diapered, but only at high risk times when accidents would cause extreme embarrassment or discomfort (such as a cold wet bed). We also make every effort to cure our kids of the wetting problem in whatever way possible, such as alarms, waking during the night etc., without pushing them too hard. There are those who suggest “babying” our kids, by keeping them in nappies/diapers or trainer pants even at low risk times, and making them use dummies/pacifiers and baby bottles. I am very dubious about these people and their motives. Then there are the ones who think that the “cold wet bed” experience will help them become dry quicker, and that the use of nappies/diapers will mean that they will inevitably develop a diaper fetish. I am also rather uneasy about those with this attitude. I, also, have noted the use of different names with the same IP#. It is a good indicator that the poster isn’t all that he/she purports to be. I don’t think this board is moderated very well, although once when a couple of us protested in our replies about a particular poster, his post together with our replies were removed a day later. The 11-20 board is moderated quite well, but some kids(?) in their replies invite the originator of the post to E-Mail them, thus giving their own E-Mail addresses to a person they know nothing about, who may be genuine, or not. Steven (16) has told us that oddballs sometimes get into the kids’ chat room. Although I have now encouraged our son Tom to post on the 11-20 board, I have told him not to E-Mail anyone or converse on the chat line for the above reasons. If a lot of this sounds negative, there are also a lot of good points. I have learnt a lot about how other parents cope with their wetting kids, much of which has been very useful. For instance, a recent poster suggested involving the child in discussions about his/her wetting, instead of just making decisions over his/her head. This has worked well with Tom (who was 14 last Wednesday). We had assumed that his Asperger’s Syndrome would have prevented him from discussing the subject logically, but we now realise that he has a much more mature attitude about the management of his wetting than we had previously realised. We are keeping our fingers crossed, but we think that his sudden need to urinate while out walking with us may now be a thing of the past. I am sure our discussions have helped in this respect. I hope you find the forum to be as useful as I have, but beware of the oddballs. Joan |