Hi, Charlotte First of all DOE consult a doctor !!! There is a special training to strengthen a certain muscle down in your pelvis. (I don't know the proper english word , I am from Holland).Sometimes medication will help. anyway- see your docter as soon as possible. In the meantime wear protecion - I wear a pair of tight fitting plasticpanties with an insert pad. nothing shows off, noone can see or tell. You might try that too, there is nothing wrong with that. please doe give some reaction. Love, Veronica