Dear Lily, I am Veronica from Holland and I have these kind of accidants once in a while as well,I understand fully what you must have felt.But I also want to share two points with you: 1) You say that you felt your ankles suddenly getting wet; you obviously did not notice in your bladder that you were losing some.Of course Icannot tellyou what the reason herefor is , but Lily, A DOCTOR MOSTELY CAN, so overcome your shameful feelings ,and go to see one.about 18 month ago I got the right medication and training ,this didn't beat it completely but it reduced it to little accidants once in a while,it might help you too. 2) because I still do have accidants (fortunately only once in a while) I wear every day a pair of close fitting plastic panties with a Tena midi layer.There is nothing wrong with it. It doesn't show off, nobody will notice, unless you tell. Dear Lily , anything is better than standing soaked in front of everyone.I love to wear them , they feel nice and secure. Consider it, it's worth it ; Love , Veronica