Hi Jess, I am 18 years old and I still wet occassionally. I also wear diapers to bed. It is not that bad. I do however think that you should be able to put your diaper on for yourself. Your mother should listen to you and stop changing you, when you tell her that you would like to just change yourself. You are definetely not alone, there are plenty of people in the world who wear diapers. I would try to talk to you mom again. Feel free to email me anytime- nelly217@yahoo.com