Reply from Debbie, Age 46 - 8/9/02 - IP#: 66.81.180.xxx   bigbb-c3567

I know just how you feel. I, too, was treated like dirt the whole time I was growing up. This type of treatment comes from their own jealousy. I know it may be hard to believe for some, as it was for me. But you see, it’s because they could never do very well at things they wanted to do, so they had to settle for second best. If your friends say you will do well, then believe them. I know that when a person is close to a situation it is hard to see things as they really are, so it’s difficult sometimes to understand what is going on. My father, mother, sister and brothers turned on me. I had no one but God and a couple of friends to help. In my case I found out years later that I had a different father and my mother wanted to keep it a secret. It would have been better if she could have treated me the same as the others. This may or many not be the case for you. I know after years and years of growing up with this kind of ridicule I became very insecure. I never thought I could do anything. My mother and sister and brothers always kept at me. I have been married for 25 years now and the problems still exist. The difference now is that I sought help. I went for counseling and that helped. I found a book called “God’s Crippled Children: Emotional Help for Hurting Christians”. (Philippian Ministries, 9234 Firelog Lane, Dallas, TX 75243 about $12.00) From this book I have discovered who I am and found that I can draw and paint. I can play piano and I am going to college for my nursing degree. Please don’t let them take you down. Keep who you are and excel in what you want to do and become. It took me 25 years. Don’t let them take your life away. You are a beautiful person just as much as anyone else is. I know because God doesn’t make junk. You are His child. He knew you before you were.