Okay, this is a bad situation. Your mother has some serious emotional problems and she is putting her problems onto you. She has a serious need to be in total control of any situation. If you look around your life, I think you will find her in complete control of many other things. She can’t seem to control your bedwetting, so she slams you back into that part of life where she was still in control: When you were a baby. She may miss the baby you were 13 years ago and want that baby back again. If this is the case, she may be enjoying the reprieve into the past. In any case, she is not thinking of you as the growing young man you are, and not respecting your growing maturity and independence. This disrespect will hinder your emotional growth and make it harder for you to start staying dry at night. It is harder to stay dry in diapers than out of them, so she is unwittingly contributing to the problem she claims to want to conquer. It’s time for a little independence, so let’s try this: “Mom, I know you are concerned about my bedwetting and about keeping my bed dry at night, and so am I. But I am 15 years old, and it’s time for some growing up. I want to move on to a bed alarm. I understand the success rate for alarms is pretty good, and I want to give it a try. Can you do this for me?” By addressing her in such a way, you don’t show disrespect, and so she should not feel put off by it. You simply show your readiness to take charge of your own problems. By making the decision to transition to an alarm, you assert independence, resulting in emotional growth. Except in the case of a physical problem, bedwetting is normally a habit that can be broken. An alarm is good for making this break. It may be that she will not listen. Being as hard-headed as she is, she may not feel she is in sufficient control if you make these changes. If this happens, it will be time to move on to the next level. Go to the school office and ask them to get you a session with a child psychologist. You don’t have to tell the school why. It is not their business. Just say “It is a personal problem” and don’t elaborate. The psychologist can help you sort things out and strengthen you. If all else fails, and since what is happening to you falls under the realm of sexual child abuse it may be that you will need to incorporate the help of Social Services. Being moved to another home where you are free to work out your problems may be considered better than staying as you are. I wish you the best. There are others in your boat, so for their benefit, let us know how it goes. I am still here if you need to talk more on the board.