No, Jess, you are not alone. There are many others in your position. I am much older now, but as a child and teen, I was an avid bed and diaper wetter, so I hope my experience can help you. Except in the case of physical disability, a 16-year-old should not have to be diapered by an adult. It may be that your mother thinks of you as incapable of doing it yourself, or, at the worst, she may miss the baby you were 14 years ago and want that baby back again. If this is the case, she may be enjoying the reprieve into the past. Either way, she is not thinking of you as the growing young lady you are, and not respecting your growing maturity and independence. This disrespect may be part of what is making you unhappy. It will also hinder your emotional growth and make it harder for you to start staying dry at night. (It is harder to stay dry in diapers than out of them.) It’s time for a little independence, so let’s try this: “Mom, I know you are concerned about my bedwetting and about keeping my bed dry at night, and so am I. But I am 16 years old, and it’s time for some growing up, so I have a two-step plan. My hands and eyes work fine, and I am capable of getting myself dressed for bed and putting on my own diaper. I really don’t need or want any help with it. It’s not that I don’t appreciate you, it’s just that when you do it for me, I feel degraded. I need the independence of being able to do it myself. Then, as I become ready, I want to move on to a bed alarm. I understand the success rate for alarms is pretty good, and I want to give it a try. Can you do this for me?” By addressing her in such a way, you don’t show disrespect, and so she should not feel put off by it. You simply show your readiness to take charge of your own problems. By getting yourself dressed, you assert some independence. This is growth. By making the decision to transition to an alarm, you assert independence again, resulting in more growth. Except in the case of a physical probelm, bedwetting is normally a habit that can be broken. An alarm is good for making this break. I want for you to exit this phase without looking back and connecting the end of diapers with the end of your mother’s attention, so it would be good to figure a way to spend some time with her each evening. If you can start a jigsaw puzzle and work it for 15 minutes a night, play cards, take a walk, or anything that will keep the connection going, neither of you will feel left out as you begin the growth process. I wish you the best. There are others in your boat, so for their benefit, let us know how it goes.