Hey Man, Your not a loser a lot of us have these problems. When I first started having them i felt like i was somehow less of a man because of it. Or the I wasn't cool bacuse i had accidents. After a while i realized that a lot of people have these peoblems and that they don't make me uncool and that I'm still the same person i used to be. If you wanna chat feel free to e-mail ma at Dave8344@aol.com Later Man, Dave