Donnie, your situation and mine have similarities. I'm sure there are many who've struggled with the thought of wearing diapers to manage incontinence. One responder to your message said he's "not incontinent" although he does wet the bed. Interesting point of view! ANY loss of bladder or bowel control, even a minor one that happens only once is incontinence. When I discovered that definition, I remembered that I'd had my first incidence of incontinence more than 20 years ago. I'd have become very angry if someone had called it incontinence. That was a label for old, senile people, hopeless cripples, mental incompetents, and babies. I've been diabetic for a long time. For years, I managed my diabetes poorly and not very effectively. Like many diabetics, I developed neuropathies, loss of nerve sensitivity in different parts of the body. My left foot is more than half numb. My right foot has quite a bit of numbness. I have major loss of erectile function which Viagra helps only partially, my bladder control is very poor,and I have occasional episodes of bowel incontinence. Many diabetics develop vision and kidney problems. I thank God every day that my eyes and kidneys are quite healthy and function normally. If I had to choose HOW diabetic complications would happen to me, I'd choose the situation I'm living with. Incontinence is quite a manageable problem. My incontinence grew out of growing urge and overflow problems. My bladder would not empty completely, and I'd often feel an overpowering urge to urinate only a few minutes after I'd gone to the toilet. The need to be very aware of the nearest toilet assumed great importance, and began affecting my life fairly seriously. I didn't always make it in time, but the wetting incidents were minor enough that I wasn't seriously embarrassed in public. For safety, I began to wear "adult protective underwear" late in the year 2000. I called them Pullups. Still do, since that's what they really are. That strategy worked well for a few months. When I wet a Pullup, which began to happen more and more often, changing it required me to undress from the waist down. That was a nuisance. Pullups with tapes hadn't yet been introduced. More than once, I wet enough to cause the Pullup to leak. I began to think about adult diapers or "briefs" as they're eupemistically called. I began wearing them at night, and liked the dry bed I woke up to. My wonderful wife appreciated it, too! I think I was more uncomfortable with the thought of my being in diapers than she was. Interesting that it was on July 4, 2001 that I decided to wear diapers instead of Pullups during the day. I was going to be in a place where getting to a toilet would not be easy. I remember wetting that day, rather than trying to make the dash to the potty. I goth through the day with only two diaper changes, in restrooms with enough privacy that I didn't have to fear discovery. I had no leaks, and felt a noticeable easing of the "where's the men's room" tension. If I had to balance the relief of not having to run for a toilet with the acute awareness of the crinkling plastic diaper cover, I suppose the relief won that day, and the next day, and the next. (I had not yet learned that only the ears of diaper wearers are really tuned to that crinkling diaper noise.) The wetting is quite a bit more serious now than it was in 2001. It's a progressive thing. I've gone back to Pullups several times when wearing diapers brought up shame issues. Pullups don't work for me, though. I'm most comfortable, best protected, and most effective in going about my daily work wearing a Depends diaper and plastic pants from Comco. If people like you and me can remind each other that there's nothing immoral or shameful about our choice to manage incontinence with diapers, that we function most effectively in daily life when we don't need to be concerned about wetting, we'll all benefit. And maybe the social acceptability of responsible, "normal" adults wearing diapers will improve. Thanks for starting an important conversation, Donnie.