Hi XYZ: I, or I should say WE, know you are anxious. So I am taking this opportunity to respond to your post. You must have just entered it, as it was not on the board a real short time ago. I wonder as I write whether you are east and it is late in the evening, or west where it is not too late. Then too you could be in Europe and asleep about now, or in the Fiji Islands where tomorrow is just waking up. But I digress. I can understand your using the moniker XYZ as you seem to be self conscious about your circumstance. But when you write a post on this board, you are amongst friends who generally have similar things happening or have had aggrivations for prior years and need to express themselves. To tell the truth, my writing under the name JACK is not the name I use elsewhere, though it is my real nickname. I DO NOT have your experience as you describe it, but I do have an aggrivating condition which is essentially the indirect result of surgery a few years back apparently. My trouble is not with wetting, but with bowel incontinence. I deal with it the very best I am able and I do have to attire myself in order to be prepared. I have to go places just like anybody. One cannot sit around hoping it will go away or feeling bad about it. I wish I could give to you specific advice, since that is what you are searching for, but I do not wish to "get the cart before the horse". You can hold on and see how things develop for you OR you can go shopping where you live or on the internet for things to make you comfortable. These "things" should be basic and not huge purchases until you see where you are going. You might, for instance, want to get some protection for the bed and a bed pad or two for over the bottom sheet. You could start with briefs as underwear, either disposable or re-useable(cloth). If you are real brave, you can shop some plastic or rubber pants. Don't smile and say, "O' my aching back, not this"! You are merely protecting your bed and PJ's against what MIGHT or MIGHT NOT happen. I am not suggesting diapers right now until you see what is on the other side of the hill. You will become familiar with all of this and these "things" as you proceed and find out what is needed, or if you do not need them at all. I am going to cut out now, I've said enough. You will probably get others responding to your concerns, and they may give you additional insight. Whatever, don't be shy to add to your post if there is anything we can do to advise you further as you move along. Take care of yourself and know that there are more specifics that can be shared when necessary...Regards from.... Jack