Hi carmen i think your problem is normal, most people if they get scared or a fright sometimes will wet there self in some cases even mess there self. I suggest try a pull up diaper or even a pad in your panties, the pull up looks and feels like normal underpants (more or less)i buy mine from wall mart equate brand. you probably will out grow this as time gos on but you could try the keegal exercise you know while peeing start and stop this is supposed to strenthen the bladder muscels. (i personally havent had much luck with that). anyway good luck and let us know how you make out.