I don't know what to tell you as I was looking for the same answer as you...I have the same problem and wet only 2-3 times a year after having a dream of going to the bathroom. I believe it is psychologically related as I am usually in a deep sleep after a long period of fatigue, stress or work. People say I am a control freak at work and extremely anal about my job and aspects of life. I believe that bed wetting, during deep sleep, is psychologically related to my anal personality. I, like you, am looking for a solution.