Bob--NO, you do NOT have to suffer through this awful problem. I was an uncontrollable bedwetter for 19+ years. It is an awful, embarrassing, frustrating problem and medical doctors do not seem to fully comprehend what this problem is. They put it aside lightlty by saying "use an alarm" or "you'll grow out of it." I'm sorry, but at 19, I should think I would have grown out of it. What FINALLY helped me is a place called The Enuresis Treatment Center. It is the only thing that worked and STILL works. I am cured!! The number is 1-800-DRY BED 4. Call them! I promise you, if you call them, talk to them, and work with them, before you know it, you will be rid of this problem. You have dealt with this long enough. Oh and by the way, there are lots of adult bed-wetters that use this program and they are soooo considerate and tactful...just call. It can't hurt right??? Good luck to you!!