God, grant me the serinity to accept the things I cannot change. The courage to change the things I can. And the wisdom to know the difference. This little sernity prayer has helped me to cope with many situations. There are many reasons a person looses control of bladder and bowels. The truth is doctors have not figured out all the reasons or have come up with a miricle pill. That means that so many of us have to learn to cope with the situation. The good news is your lucky that you only have to deal with a night time situation and only your bladder. The best advice is find a way to cope with your situation, do it, and go from there.