Hi carman i think you should invest in some diapers, i find pull ups are the best and feel (more or less)like normal underwear plus some plastic panties. To begin with you should go to your doctor it sounds like you have weak bladder muscels try this little trick. when your peeing try to stop the flow then start then stop as time gos on your bladder should get more stronger. In the mean time the diapers will stop the wetness showing and as long as no one finds out you have a diaper on i think the teasing will stop.