Scott, You have encountered a painful reality that most bedwetters your age or older have had to endure. Many of us know from personal experience what you are going through. I was twice your age before I got married, and it was because I was always too terrified to even admit to a girlfriend that I was a bedwetter. I was so afraid of rejection that I just couldn't work up the courage to tell her. Of course, because of that, I was never able to let a relationship get serious. I often see comments from people who say "if she really cared for you, she would accept you anyway." This is a true statement, but it doesn't make the pain any less. You have received one response that suggests there may be no women who can accept a man who wets his bed. I am afraid that this may be correct about a substantial majority of women, but certainly not all. I have communicated with many adult bedwetters who are happily married. And after many years of loneliness, I became part of that group. You did the right thing when you admitted to your girlfriend that you are a bedwetter. If she was not going to accept that, you needed to know it then, not weeks or months later. (I wish I had followed my own advice long ago.) I also wish I could make you feel better by telling you that you won't have to put up with any more heartbreak, but unfortunately that would be dishonest. What I can tell you, however, is that the situation is not hopeless. There are plenty of people who will accept a bedwetter. You just have to work harder to find her. You indicated that you wanted to sleep in your girlfriend's bed. I hope you made it clear to her that you are willing to wear whatever protection is necessary to keep her bed dry. Some women may not accept any man who wets his bed, but there are others who will be understanding -- as long as they don't to have to lie in a wet bed. They can't be blamed for feeling that way. The good news is that those in the latter group are able to respect a man who takes the necessary measures to manage his bedwetting, rather than just acting helpless and waking up every morning in soaked sheets. That was how my wife felt when we were married. It was important to both of us to be able to sleep in the same bed, so I had to get over the embarrassment of wearing diapers and rubber pants, but I knew it was the only choice I had if I wanted to spend my life with her. I wish you all the best. Hopefully, your girlfriend will get over her initial dismay at learning that you are a bedwetter. But if not, I hope you won't have to wait as long as I did to find another girl who will love you regardless of your bedwetting.