As a person who is a bit older, and who has been incon. for a long time I know about the shame that has been associated with wearing diapers I tried hideing the problem and that was more trouble than just beeing honest and open about incontinence. I don't know what made me think I was going to hide this for ever. I have been married for 33 years. My family knew so I decided to stop the hideing,know everybody knows I wear diapers and nobody seems to care...I have run into a few who couldn't deai with the idea of adults in diapers but they didn't stay around long and those kind of friends I don't need anyway