Hi Lisa, I COMPLETELY understand - I have multiple sclerosis - and am normal looking on the outside. who would know.. unless I'm having an episode of the MS - then I don't walk very well. I'm single too - and afraid to marry. I have to wear diapers 24/7 and even though I have to I have learned to find the ones that are crinkle proof - and slim.. Although at night I have to have the full diaper.. I am a computer engineer - have 2 college degrees.. And - I'm letting this problem squelch my whole life. I live in North Carolina - and it's beautiful here in the mountains.. So - I'm start to go out anyhow - not care - and just take a bag with supplies.. I'm not going to let this thing dictate my life to me. If you want to write - my eamil is seraphim23@charter.net Take care.. Hang in there Mark