Hey, I feel for you. I've been a bed wetter my whole life. I've tried lots of things to stop it, but I have a physical condition that makes it almost impossible. I've worn diapers to bed since I was a kid. I'm not suggesting you do this, unless you think it's right for you, but there are diapers that can be hidden pretty well (like goodnites or cloth diapers w/plastic pants). If nothing else, it will keep your bed and anyone else's dry. I've recently been lucky enough to have a boyfriend who is understanding of my problem, and I'm sure you can find someone if I can. If you'd like to talk, reach me at julrich123@hotmail.com