Lisa, I've also dealt with sporadic bedwetting my whole life and can relate to a lot of what you're going through. I normally just go with a plastic cover on the mattress (which coincidentally also seems to help with my dust allergy) and do the laundry when necessary since it only happens a few times a month or less on average. When I sleep in places other than my own bed I just cut way down on fluid intake (like for a whole day in advance) and set a quiet alarm for two hours after I get in bed (to make sure my bladder is empty, if I'm overly worried about it that night), and I've never had a problem. One thing I've noticed is that stress seems to be a major factor in triggering periods of wet nights, but even during low-stress periods it happens just often enough that I can never really go to sleep without it being in the back of my mind just a bit. Like you I'm still largely terrified about anyone finding out, but lately I am in the process of discovering that it's really not as much of a big deal to others as we make it out to be. I've talked to a roommate and a good friend about this in the last couple months (the first almost out of necessity, the second just in the course of a fairly intimate conversation) and both were slightly surprised but then completely accepting and supportive about it, just as if I had told them I had asthma or was nearsighted or diabetic or something like that. After keeping it hidden from everyone for many years (my parents knew that I wet every night until about age 12 but not about the sporadic incidents after that) it was a major relief to know that I could be "found out" without losing a friendship or anything like that. While I vividly remember cases from childhood of dealing with people who were not so understanding, I think that true friends will understand -- as many of the married people who have written on this board can no doubt attest. I hope this is helpful, and I too would be interested in any reliable means of controlling this problem... :)