Much of your social trouble is self-inflicted. It's a lot easier to have friends despite accidents than to have friends despite never trying to because you fear what might happen. I've seen other bathroom-related sites (I'm not a bedwetter if we don't count a few isolated incidents, but I have a form of autism and can become very deeply obsessed with weird things. Power Rangers, developmental disorders and learning disabilities... now this.) and some who have been chronic bedwetters all their lives talk about husbands, wives, friends. Not in heartwarming Lifetime Channel stories about the one person who could see through it, but just normally, matter-of-factly. Even on this board. The guy whose wife doesn't want to look at him in diapers has a wife who stood by him when his need for diapers came along, despite her distaste. Marina's been a bedwetter from day one, and has a husband. A lot of people on other boards have mentioned sympathetic friends who tried to comfort them in their moment of humiliation when they've wet themselves (or worse) in public, though they had no chronic condition to explain it. The people who'd had accidents weren't even surprised that their friend was sympathetic. They didn't have to wonder or guess if their friend would act as a friend. Some people just understand. There are those who don't mind. And there are those like the guy's wife, who *do* mind but stick with you *anyway.* Yeah, there are some folks out there who'd shun you for having this problem that doesn't hurt them in any way (which *instantly* proves them to be someone not worth your time. Do you *want* the company of someone that shallow or ignorant or both?) but there are also those who can look past the accidents and see the beautiful human being. What stands between you and them is that you aren't doing yourself this same courtesy. Be kind to yourself. Tell yourself you're a kind and caring person everyone should want for a friend, whether you believe it or not at first, until you can act on it. Think of everything you like about yourself, think of it *constantly.* The same way you think of something you like when you want to distract yourself from being afraid to do something. Think of the best thing you've ever drawn or written, something you sang, *something,* as you change your sheets or Goodnites. You are *you.* Bedwetting is what *happens* to you. Detach yourself from it totally. -Alan, who will still be Alan if changing his sheets gets shoehorned into tomorrow's morning routine