maybe get a package of depends fitted briefs overnight ones and box it up as a gift and put a nice note in there and then be there when he opens up the box and be ready to cuddle him and say it is ok to wear these you will be ok and there is alot of people out there who are in your same boat. if you or he need moral support feel free to email me at airportlou@yahoo.com tell him i am 29 and have been in diapers since i was 19 i wear them 24-7 though it is ok to be in diapers and to live your life to the fullest and pick the chin up and wipe away those tears of fear and shame everything will be ok. i have been ok for 10 years now and i would not be here if it was not for these depend fitted briefs they are my saviour.