After it happens it's horrific. You need to be helpful and if they don't want to talk about it just drop it .it is VERY HARD to talk about something like this .And it does nothing for people's self-esteem. Don't force them to talk about it it is EXTREMLY embarassing for the person who wets the bed. as people have said before ANYTHING is better than waking up Wet .I would say that this is the hardest problem iv'e ever had to deal with .and it has been one of my deepest ,darkest secrets for an extended period of time .it's worse if you have to waer diapers cause they are for little kidsand you feel like you are five.